How to rewire your life when you’re in the middle of the mess
I had the most beautiful moment recently — the kind of moment that lingers and then gently nudges your soul a little sideways.
I was wonderfully unexpectedly catching up in person with someone I hadn’t seen in years. You know how those reconnections go… you’re standing there, doing the “How are you?” dance, giving the CliffsNotes version of life while silently debating how real to get.
She asked me, “So how have things been?”
I think I gave a half-sigh, half-smirk combo that only barely masked the inner chaos. And without skipping a beat, she pivoted with the kind of question that makes you feel seen:
“If this season of your life was a chapter in a book, what would it be called?”
UM. Excuse me?
Why is this not how we start every conversation?
Because I ate that question up. Nom nom nom. 🍴
Hardly without thought, I blurted:
“Burn it down to build it up.”
And phew. That landed with a thud of truth in my chest.
And we both laughed in cathartic recognition of the feeling.
Because that’s what this season has felt like — a controlled burn. A necessary reckoning. Letting go of what no longer fits. Old stories. Old structures. Old ways of proving my worth. Watching things fall apart (some on purpose, some… not), so something stronger, clearer, and more me can rise in its place.
Not a gentle blooming.
This is wildfire season — scorching what no longer serves so new roots can take hold. It’s raw, unruly, and necessary. Because some seeds only sprout after the burn.
I’m not doing this because I want to start over.
I’m doing this because I refuse to keep pretending that “fine” is good enough.
So I’ll ask you the same question:
If this season of your life was a chapter in a book, what would it be called?
Would it be something fierce and fiery? Soft and sacred? Quiet and curious?
Hit reply or drop it in the comments. I’d love to know what your chapter is called. And who knows… maybe down the road I’ll compile a whole list for us Growth Getters to look back on as proof of just how far we’ve come.
Neuroscience Says: Burning it down might be the best thing you can do
There’s actually solid science behind why “burning it down to build it up” is more than a dramatic metaphor — it’s how our brains actually grow and rewire.
In neuroscience, this process is known as neuroplasticity… the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections.
But here’s the catch: to form new, more aligned patterns, we often have to disrupt the old ones first.
This disruption can feel like chaos — forgetting what used to work, questioning your identity, struggling to make decisions. But in truth, it’s a biological invitation to rewire your habits, beliefs, and behavior in a way that better supports who you’re becoming.
Just like controlled burns in a forest clear away deadwood to make space for new growth, your brain needs space to grow the future version of you.
So if it feels like everything’s on fire right now? That might just be your prefrontal cortex making room for expansion.
💜🔥,
Christine
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I think mine is either “the juggle is real” or something along the lines of like “finding my rhythm”